Do you like the sound of his/her voice?  It is important to notice whether there is expression in the person’s voice.  Also, do you like the tone and quality of his/her voice?

Does he/she listen attentively as you share intimate details about yourself?  Someone who is listening attentively is making appropriate eye contact, exhibiting open body language (arms relaxed at the sides and perhaps leaning slightly forward).  The person will also remember some of the details you’ve shared and bring them up in a future conversation.

Is he/she willing to share intimate details about himself/herself? An available, loving person has the ability to be vulnerable and open up.  Also, it is important to notice the amount of emotion expressed in the sharing.  Of course, a little excitement or a little sadness is normal, but pay attention to the extremes.

Is his/her only topic of conversation himself/herself?  This is probably an obvious one—a good lover is a person who is able to talk about a variety of subjects.

Does he/she have a spirit of helpfulness?  Is he or she willing to open a door, help you carry something, help you fix something, etc.  Also, pay attention to whether the person has the ability to reciprocate.  A person who is able to give of himself/herself makes a better lover.

How does he/she respond to change?  Flexibility is an important character trait that should not be forgotten.  A good lover is someone who can easily adapt.

Is he/she able to occasionally come up with creative and spontaneous ideas for dates that are out of the ordinary?  Pay attention to how willing he/she is to try something that you haven’t done together before.  A person who can be creative and spontaneous while dating is much more likely to be a creative, spontaneous lover.

Does he/she appear to be comfortable when you hug each other?  You want to be with someone that makes you feel at ease.  A good lover is able to reach out for a hug that lasts for more than one or two seconds.

Has the person mentioned reading articles or books regarding relationships and sex?  A good lover is a knowledgeable lover.

Are you able to talk intimately about sex?  This is the most important one of all.  A good lover is someone who can talk about the intimate details of sex.  You can’t learn everything you need to know from books, etc., as each person has different needs.  If you can talk about your likes and dislikes, you will know whether or not you are compatible.