Unique Speed Dating Events and Personal Growth Classes for Singles in Denver & Beyond
"Celebrating 10 years of transitioning singles to couples."
Phone: (303) 750-2208 E-mail: melody@singlesworkshops.com
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Unique Speed Dating Events and Personal Growth Classes for Singles in Denver & Beyond "Celebrating 10 years of transitioning singles to couples." Phone: (303) 750-2208 E-mail: melody@singlesworkshops.com
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By Melody Ellenberger Have you ever made the relationship resolution, "This is the year I'm going to find The One." If your answer is "No," why? If your answer is "Yes," did you tell anyone, or did you keep it to yourself? How many years have you made that resolution? If the answer is more than one, or if you've never made the resolution, maybe it's time to analyze this concept. First, let’s start with a dictionary lesson (from Webster): resolution: a formal expression of opinion, will or intent The use of the word "formal" implies that it must either be spoken aloud to someone or written down on a piece of paper. Hmmm…now that does sound a bit intimidating, doesn’t it? What if you tell all your friends that this is going to be the year that you meet The One, and at the end of the year, you’re still single? If you keep the resolution to yourself, then you don’t risk embarrassment. Maybe using the word "resolution" is the problem. Maybe we should switch the word to relationship "agenda." agenda: a list, outline, or plan of things to be considered or done That sounds a little better, doesn’t it? With this definition, you only have to "consider" making a relationship plan and it doesn’t say anything about sharing it. On the other hand, it sounds worse as no one likes to date someone with an "agenda." So, what is the hesitancy all about? Maybe it is bad timing. If you’ve just ended a relationship, then the last thing you should be thinking about is meeting someone new. On the other hand, the hesitancy may be due to your fear of losing popularity with your friends and dating partner if they find out about your "agenda." Some people may view it as a trap into an archaic institution. Or, perhaps it is your attitude holding you back. How many times have you referred to marriage as the "M" word and commitment as the "C" word? It is almost as if there is shame in saying those words. We make resolutions because we want to live happier, healthier lives. Lots of research shows that marriage is the overall, healthier lifestyle. Therefore, no one should feel ashamed of having the desire to live the married lifestyle. It can be a very positive, loving experience if that is your vision and belief. So go ahead and make a relationship resolution or agenda, and as you do, keep in mind the following question, "If God were to bring you your ideal partner tomorrow, would you be ready for him/her? If the answer is ‘no,’ what would you need to do in order to become ready???" Philippians 4:6 – Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. |
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